Wednesday, 2 December 2015

What we need to STOP saying

Hello folks! Or should I say strangers!

Well, it has only been a couple of days, but the amount of stuff that has been packed into these past few days has made them feel like a couple of weeks!!

I'm not sure if I have mentioned this yet on the blog, but because we are all so super close (and, come one, you basically know my daily eating habits!) I'll let you in.

So for my senior year at highschool I've fortuitously earned the title of Head Girl. This means next year will be even more hectic than this one!! So this last Tuesday and Wednesday I have been on a prefect camp with the other 20 or so prefects (all heads of different sections of the school- eg, art, music etc.) packed full of team work exercises, leadership tasks and problem solving games.

Anywho, that's not what this post is about- I just thought I'd get you all caught up on what was happening in life currently (feel free to let me know what's happening in your life currently in the comments below!).

No. This post is about something else. This post is about something that gets to me more than it should.

Other people's words.

As a kid, I always took the things my brother or sister said to me too personally and took a long time to get over it. As a growing child I would easily get hurt by what other people said to me if it were in the least bit harsh. I never asked for a teacher to look over my work because I was afraid of criticism-feeling as though they were critisising me personally.

Of course, as I've gotten older and wiser :P I've come to realise that people usually don't mean to hurt you and not to take those comments too close to heart.

However, in saying that, there are certain comments that could simply be left unsaid. Here are a few that come to mine from either hearing someone say it to someone else, or having someone say it to me.

1. How are you so skinny when you eat that much!

First of all- can you imagine if you said this to someone recovery from an eating disorder/ exercise addiction etc? They might have only just come to terms with being ok with the amount of food they now have to eat to become healthy once again and are now slammed in the face with that.

But really, saying that to anyone is quite hurtful. It would replay in most people's minds as they look down at what they're eating and start to obsess over how much is too much? Do they overeat? If they are at a healthy weight for their bodies, have the energy to complete all their daily tasks and feel happy and energised, how can we assume that they are eating so much for their bodies?
 A delicious veggie filled roll! :)

2. Running really? Why do you torture yourself?

Like any outlet, running could be a person's way to release any build up of stress, disconnect from a busy world they live in, or simply be with their own mind for a short period of their day. Dissing running to a runner is like dissing science straight to a scientist. It's just hurtful.

On that point, everyone has their own fasvourite ways of working up a sweat and in that we should all be grateful that we can in fact move our bodies in a way that feels good for us. WE SHOULD BE CELEBRATING those who have found their outlets.

3. You're so healthy- you eat perfect, you exercise perfect- you are perfect.

This one. Written down it may come across as a compliment. But that's in the way it is read. You see, when I've heard this said it is always riddled with a slight undercurrent of jealousy and malice. Said not to encourage the person, but to bring them down and make them feel bad.

No body really wants to be called perfect because then they're automatically isolated. Marginalised from everyone else. If you are in a group and someone tells you you're perfect it's as if it is the group against you. The group bonds on their 'similarity' of not being perfect and you stand there, knowing full well that you are not perfect either, but anything you say will go unheard.

I wasn't expecting this post to get so long and detailed (these things happen when I am passionate about something) and there are many, many more scenarios and comments that hold more negativity than positivity to the receiver.

Your turn:
Have you ever had any of these things said to you?
How do you combat other people's negativity towards you?
Any others that should be mentioned?

This was just me Thinking Out Loud today. Be sure to head on over to Spoons to see what random thoughts everyone else is having this fine Thursday!

Have a fabulous day, do something you enjoy and EAT SOMETHING DELICIOUS!! Bye for now friendly friends!


  1. Oh man, people used to say the 'healthy' phrase to me a lot, but I actually wasn't that healthy. I was probably more obsessed with being healthy, but now I definitely don't eat as healthy. However, I'm a lot happier, and people don't tell me that I'm perfect in my eating, exercise, etc., because they know that I'm not. :)

    1. Emily,
      It is so frustrating- especially if being healthy is something you want and people are making it negative!
      I'm so glad to hear you are in a happier and better place now!! :D
      Steph 2 chefxx


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